SEXUAL CONFUSION
How to plan a sexual self-revolution

Do you have sexual problems?
Do you want to improve your sexual pleasure?
First, ask yourself if it's worth it. You can live very well without sex. And sometimes it's better to give up than to get yourself in trouble looking for a solution.

Perhaps you only need to abstain. Have a break to put your ideas in order again, heal the wounds, understand your deeper needs. Take it easy. Sex and haste don't go well together. If you really want to have sex, then here in sequence a pentalogue of 5 points to give you an alibi for unleashing your desires.

1 If you decide that you really want to deal with your raging sexuality right away, you must first remember that you are not the only one with a problem.
Marilyn Monroe also had disastrous sexual problems and Stalin too was a wreck, not tomention your concierge, the postman, the plumber and your teacher Rosa Maria Baldinucci. And what about the grocer... Have you seen him how he looks at the women, repeating in a loud obscene voice: "Does madame want a couple of slices of salami?"
Everyone has sexual problems, even heads of state, even Maradonas, porno stars, skiers and terrorists.
And whoever says he doesn't have any is either an idiot who has no awareness of himself or a liar who has twice as many problems as the national average.

2 The second thing to do is to decide that sex is essentially something good and right. It's natural. God created us endowed with a vigorous sexual drive and made sex so delectable because he wanted life to be pleasant and he did not want to bestow the woes of hell on us.
Sex is a central experience in life. It's a means of self-awareness, awareness of others and of the wonderful mystery of creation.
Sex, life, and pleasure go hand in hand. It's stupid to believe that physical pleasure is just a base way of satisfying of our instincts. To the contrary, orgasm is a basic experience from a physical and psychological point of view. It develops the personality, relaxes the body, cures disease and depression. Sex is the greatest medicine known to humanity. (1)

3 Trust yourself. Making love is as natural as eating and breathing. Your body knows what to do.
If you stop stifling yourself, you will see that your emotivity will begin to flow again like water on an artificial lake, once the locks have been opened. Wait for desire to inspire you. Follow your impulses, even the silliest.
Have you always dreamed of him washing your hair dressed as an ancient Roman? Well, ask him! What's wrong with it? Maybe you'll discover that he's a really nice guy who secretly wants to paint your toenails while listening to the Beatles.
Yet he might not understand the game and you will discover that he is a stupid male chauvinist pig and you will spare yourself a load of time if you dump him right away instead of bearing him four children before you understand what an idiot he is.

4 Try to improve your techniques of loving. Technique is obviously not essential, but nobody becomes a great Formula One champion without knowing how to drive a car.

5 Only one problem remains: how to find a soul mate or at least a kindred spirit. You need peace of mind and confidence. You need to love others, love yourself, and to love life.
Only if you love will you find someone who loves you. If you are sad, dull and boring, people will flee from you as from the plague and at most you'll succeed in marrying a sadomasochist. (2)

Be aware first of all that you are dealing with a human being who has desires and problems like you do. However, men and women are not exactly the same.
Women love above all tenderness.
The great secret is to wait, to give their desires time and to pay attention to what they really want to do. Learn to listen with your ears and your hands.

Too often men are so excited and anxious that they think of sex as a goal to be reached as quickly as possible. From a purely sexual point of view, the woman is valued only because she "has a pussy and tits". She can give nothing other than her body.
There is no game, no emotional rapport, no exchange of thoughts or a true connection with that particular woman. It's a very widespread form of 'cultural impotence' that enrages women.
Women can find a man that wants to have sex with them in any corner of the street. This is not what they are looking for.
They want men who know how to appreciate their particular qualities, not for what they have between their legs.
Instead, for man to be strong is an absolute imperative, even if he is as inexperienced and afraid as you. Reassure him, try to make him slow down.

Try to have some free time and resign yourself to a certain dose of male impetuousness (at least in small doses it is inevitable). Once they have relieved themselves a bit, even boys, if they're not stupid, have their good qualities.
The essential thing for both parties is to get over fear, distrust and insecurity.

Certainly a bit of practice and, above all, calm is needed. Good food, good music and an interesting conversation help. Relax, breathe deeply and think only of the sensations and desires that you are experiencing. This is the cure. Experience the good of what you are doing. Enjoy the pleasure of contact, of being together, feeling each other breathing, enjoying, and living. As one film said, "seize the moment!" (time flies).

(1) - For many sexual problems it is first necessary to put your perceptions in order. If you are deaf to the life that surrounds you, before anything else you must try to let yourself go a little with a few exercises to broaden your perceptions. Among the many books available on the subject we suggest without doubt "Becoming God in Ten Moves" - Universal Encyclopedia - vol. 2. Demetra Publications.
(2) - It's a very broad theme we will dedicate a whole volume of the universal encyclopedia to: "How to Find a Husband and Why Kill Him", Zen and the Art of Disastrous Lovemaking.