technique is very simple and involves practicing penetration
without an erection in the position I already talked to you
about: the scissors or cat position and even the upside-down
cat position, that is with the girl on top.
have practically nothing to worry about. It's not necessary
that you have an erection. This is the big difference from
the traditional way of making love. You can or not have an
erection. It deals with waiting passively, together, connected
with your partner. After 31 minutes a physiological reaction
takes places, which has been measured with little electroencephalogram-type
machines. The brain waves of the two lovers, just after 31
minutes, begin to go at the same rhythm becoming the same.
This cerebral syntonization is physically felt. Do you know
what it means to have a good feeling? That's it, something
similar. Obviously, it's a way of making love that requires
the lovers to have mutually strong emotions. It's not the
sort of sexual relationship that you can have with a prostitute.
It may have happened to you to make great love with someone,
but to have no real communion with that person. This phenomenon
of the homogenization of the brain waves instead makes you
actually feel a diffused sensation of pleasure, not only in
the genital area. It's not an orgasm, but it is nevertheless
a great pleasure, the pleasure of hugging. You have what has
been called a peak-experience orgasm.
It is different from the usual orgasm, explosive, with ejaculation.
It is a softer orgasm, but much more deeply satisfying. You
feel goose bumps all over your body. A simple caress becomes
a great deal more pleasurable. There is a warm sensation that
spreads, and above all, an ecstatic state of communion with
the other person. There is complete union, the complete inter-penetration
of the two lovers. It is a less acute sensation than the typical
orgasm, but more powerful, because you can remain in this
state of ecstasy even for an hour without getting tired, as
you are not doing anything.
It's not about completing a performance or making a physical
effort. Rather, it is relaxing. If a tired person reaches
it, he recharges his energy. I know that men will think that
my brain has turned to mush. It's exactly what I thought when
they talked to me of sweet Tantra for the first time.
On the contrary, women can understand me because you can make
love with a girl and, when you ask her how it went, she answers:
"I didn't have an orgasm, but I enjoyed it just the same,
and I'm satisfied".
We males immediately think that she says it only out of politeness
and pity, and as soon as we leave, she calls the plumber,
who is never one to hesitate! And instead no... women happen
to experience a state similar to that of Tantric ecstasy precisely
because they have less the sense of competition, of sexual
performance, and therefore are more relaxed than males.
Obviously, you are not obliged to stop once you've had a peak-experience
orgasm. After having experienced Tantric ecstasy for 10 minutes
or an hour, you can also end sex with a normal orgasm, providing
you move a bit. At this point, however, it won't be the usual
orgasm, but something much more powerful. In fact, thanks
to muscular and mental relaxation that sweet Tantra involves,
you will be in the best condition to better listen to the
ecstasy of orgasmic pleasure.