lips are a sacred place of love. Placing the lips on those
of the beloved has been celebrated by lovers of all epochs.
The kiss recalls nourishment. Once mothers chewed the food
and then passed it to the little ones by way of mouth. The
kiss comes from this primitive form of homogenization.
There are however peoples who instead of oral contact prefer
the rubbing of noses (Eskimos). Elsewhere the kiss on the
mouth is also practised as a sign of friendship and used in
public encounters (Breznev's historic kisses to Eastern Europe's
heads of state).
speak of the technique of kissing is superfluous. The kiss
is an emotion and everyone kisses in a different way. I will
just list here what is best to avoid.
First, I find kisses that are too deep distasteful. Especially
the first times if you stuff half a metre of tongue in your
lover's mouth. It could be enjoyable in certain particularly
'hot' situations, but to do it all the time could be excessive.
denied kiss is equally annoying: given with stiff lips and
pulling the tongue back. That is - if you don't feel like
kissing, don't kiss. It's better. The kiss makes sense if
it is soft, gentle and slow.
I love it when the lips and the tongue rub together gently
without leaving empty spaces. A kiss with a twirled tongue,
like a blender, or with a wide-open mouth can express special
moments of explosion or longing... but generally I prefer
the kiss of abandon with the lips and the tongue soft and
wet. Even here, as elsewhere in life, it won't do to exaggerate.
Above all, the tongue shouldn't be too relaxed. To kiss a
lifeless tongue makes no sense.
conclude, I will list the main actions that make up a kiss.
- stroking, rubbing with the lips;
- giving little bites with the lips;
- breathing in and puffing with half-closed lips;
- smacking of the lips;
- licking and slapping of the tongue on the lips and on the
surrounding areas. Or on the teeth, or for those who go too
far, on the palate. The licking can be done with a pointed
tongue or with a flat tongue;
- twisting of the tongue;
- sucking of the lips and tongue;
- all the above can be done in various ways: in one or the
other's mouth, or halfway between with the mouth half-closed,
half-open, open or wide-open. With a sound of puffing, groaning,
gasping, moaning, shouting, or in silence. The more virtuous
try to talk by kissing each other, others mumble the phrases
between one deep kiss and another, thus producing the famous
syncopated slang commonly heard in films.