ABC OF SEX
Stimulation - Contraceptives
- Erogenous Zones
- Finger/Hand use
of the Glans
- Penis Size
- Post-coitus Depression
Spot - Sexual
Violence - Sodomy
position of the Cat
At times men look for an angel for the heart and a slut in
bed. It is clear that it's a sign of confusion, fear of sex
and love. Relax and understand that physical pleasure is a
divine miracle and love is indispensable.
Men feel anxious because they are afraid that in the end "you
won't be willing". Do something to him right away that
will leave him without any doubts. In this way, he'll relax
and you will both be able to act in a more natural, more human
We have already said that it makes no sense to indicate a
technique. But it is possible to provide a few ideas. Stimulate
the clitoris with a fingertip wet with saliva. Stroke it up
and down, pressing on it rhythmically (and gently). Take the
whole clitoris and the surrounding area between the thumb
and forefinger (as if you are giving it a pinch) and gently
masturbate it. Stroke it with the middle finger while the
forefinger and ring finger stroke along the sides of the large
lips. Squeeze the clitoris and the large lips scissors-like.
Stimulate the anus and the clitoris while penetrating the
vagina with a finger. Apply rotating pressure with the palm
of the hand on the whole area. Explore it millimetre by millimetre
ever so slowly.
Women have few fertile days. You can calculate which ones
and therefore know when you can make love without taking any
precautions. But, in practice, there are sudden changes and
special cases, so that only the days of the menstrual period
are really safe. You must however keep in mind that sperm
can survive for more than 24 hours. The withdrawal method
is unsafe because it doesn't prevent emissions of seminal
fluid which could be sufficient in any case for fertilization.
Even vaginal cleansing and spermicides are unreliable methods.
The IUD (intrauterine device), the diaphragm, the condom and
the pill are the only safe methods. The IUD is a small copper
coil inserted in the uterus that prevents the egg from effectively
settling. If you choose it, make sure that it has a very soft
little string as this string remains hanging in the vagina
and it can be very annoying for your partner. The diaphragm
is instead a little plastic cup or cap that, filled with spermicide
covers "the neck of the uterus". In order to make
a wise choice, it is worth going to a gynecologist.
If it's your first experience, it's better not to add the
fear of an unwanted pregnacy to your anxiety. Obviously, this
particularly concerns girls who would be better off starting
relationships with the assurance of a couple of months of
the pill before moving on to more complex contraceptives.
The penis penetrates the vagina. Or, the vagina swallows up
The nightmare of the century. And there's not only AIDS, but
also syphilis, gonorrhea and "cockscomb", not to
speak of fleas and crabs. But things are not as serious as
they may seem. Make love without a condom only with your steady
partner and convince him to do the same. It's one thing if
he is unfaithful to you, but it's worse if he also infects
you. Those who can't tolerate the condom should limit themselves
to caresses that, unlike all the rest, aren't infective (provided
that there aren't any cuts). Remember that hygiene is a fundamental
matter. Making love with clean people who have no sores in
the genital area is a primary rule of caution.
It seems that the majority of men are dissatisfied with how
they make love. If they tried harder, they could improve,
but they lack the will power.
Act of emitting seminal fluid. At times you have an ejaculation
without an orgasm (that is, everything functions normally
with erection and emission but you don't experience the peak
of pleasure. Experts on sex say very little, if anything,
The human being is one whole erogenous zone, from head to
toe. Then there are some zones that are more erogenous than
The male emits a seminal fluid during orgasm that contains
the heroic sperm which, if it ends up inside the vagina, tries
to swim up to the uterus and there... zap! It fertilizes the
famous female egg. There is no other way to have a baby. Sperm
is unable to do anything if it is not put in exactly the right
place (inside the cleft).
Hold in the hand, place your hand on top (or vice versa),
stimulate, graze, caress, press, massage, fondle, feel (with
the palm of the hand, with the back, with the fingers, with
the fingertips), scratch, scrape, claw, rub, titillate, pinch,
grasp, constrict, squeeze, pull, stretch, open, explore, handle.
The sliding skin of the penis that gathers under the glans,
forming a sort of thin thread. This joining more or less represents
the area of greatest sensitivity. Some men have a very delicate
or 'short' fraenum, a fact that prevents the skin from sliding
down, leaving the glans exposed. This can cause coition problems
and risks of painful and bloody tearing. If you have similar
problems, it is necessary to undergo a surgical operation.
(For this rather common problem and to facilitate hygiene,
some people resort to circumcision; that is, the removal of
the part of the skin that covers the glans: the prepuce).
Playing and laughing are two fundamental things in sex and
in life. Unfortunately, sexual games can't be learned from
books. They are to be invented each time in a different way
depending on the days, situations, desires and love affairs.
Playing blindfold, playing at doctors, having a bath, following
each other, strip-teasing, pretending to sleep, covering each
other with whipped cream, touching each other everywhere but
there, dressing up as pirates, playing spin the bottle, expressing
a wish, taking turns being the slave, feeding each other,
looking at each other, using an icicle, cream, fruit, a hot
wet towel, a feather, puffing from a straw, passing champagne
from mouth to mouth, tickling each other, painting each other,
taking photos of each other, doing it at the movies, in the
elevator, on the train.
The mythical G-spot, discovered by the Americans a little
before the landing on the moon, a miraculous place of vaginal
pleasures. Repeated and colossal orgasms. It is located in
the upper part of the vagina. By slowly inserting a finger,
with your fingertip turned towards her belly, you will find
half way - between the opening of the divine hole and its
depth - a slight depression, just as big as a fingertip. By
stroking this spot with a circular movement, you obtain pleasurable
sensations. Not all women however go wild about this "G"-spot.
It's worthwhile anyway conducting a survey. If you find a
girl who has a very sensitive G-spot, she'll be very happy
A human being equipped with complete, perfect and functional
sex organs doesn't exist and never has. What exists are legends,
photomontages, prostheses and some cases of abnormal development
of the clitoris and the large lips or cases of malformation
that may create illusions. The rest is nonsense. No one has
ever succeeded in impregnating himself.
There are those who at times prefer the same sex. This may
happen. If it doesn't happen to you, don't worry about it.
If it happens, don't worry about it. The only danger is if
it becomes a source of anguish. And anyway, even the other
sex has its positive sides. We are made in two different ways
precisely so that we can love each other better.
Hygiene is essential in sex. Not to smell, not to have bad
breath, not to go off with others when you have contagious
infections these are simple matters of civilisation and good
taste. Washing yourself carefully after sex, especially with
occasional partners is indispensable (use special bacterial
but not irritating soaps). It is absolutely essential to wash
yourself after anal sex too or when you have a period. Another
fundamental rule of hygiene is never to penetrate the vagina
after anal penetration because this can cause vaginal infections.
If you find rashes, swelling and sores in the genital area,
see a doctor right away.
A strong itching in the pubic area can instead mean crabs.
Small insects, like little spiders. They appear as a prominent
little stain at the base of a hair and are detected as microscopic
'transparent little pearls' (eggs) stuck among the hair. To
eliminate crabs, use a special soap and powder. The operation
should be repeated a couple of times, scrupulously following
the time interval between one application and the other suggested
by the manufacturing company.
of the Glans
The skin of the glans is very delicate. In fact, the 'sliding'
skin of the shaft covers the tip of the penis that is almost
always protected and is very sensitive. (Circumcised men don't
have this sliding strip of skin. Their glans is always exposed
and therefore less sensitive). At times rashes can be caused
by sexual rubbing or clothing. Lubricating with balsamic oil
or cream can be of some use. Even the essential oil of lavender
gives good results, but it burns a little. These irritations
may cause burning after contact with the secretions of the
vulva. Often this is due to poor hygiene or to the habit of
not drying the penis carefully after washing. Too much moisture
in fact fosters these irritations. Dry yourself with care.
Smoothness goes hand in hand with pleasure. Lubricating is
at times a good way to make touching pleasant. Generally,
it is more pleasurable to be touched in the sensitive areas
if they have been well lubricated. This is particularly true
for penetration. You must wait for her to become wet or, if
you can't resist, wet her with saliva or with something else
that is lubricous and appropriate (non-irritating, that is).
Don't use petroleum-base lubricants. They are carcinogenic.
Is a man who has had three thousand women a super macho? No,
he's impotent. He lacks the capacity to desire sex for more
than an hour. It's crazy. He's all right the first time, then
he's no big deal. It's after the hundredth night of sex that
you get to know each other a bit. Whoever has sex with a woman
just once is missing out on the best.
Approximately every 28 days the woman is fertile for about
2 or 3 days. That means that an egg is ready to be fertilized
(in the uterus). Every 28 days the non-fertilized egg is expelled
with a small loss of blood that lasts a few days. Then a new
egg is released from the ovaries and takes its place in the
Menstruation starts around the age of 11-15 and ends at the
age of 45-50.
Periodically, weekly magazines are very interested in the
fantasies and sexual practices of minors. This helps sell
Sucking, stroking with the lips or with the tongue, licking,
suckling, slurping, biting, blowing a raspberry, breathing
in, puffing, spraying with sounds (vibrational sexuality),
warming in the mouth, squeezing in the mouth.
We have said that doing it slowly is better and remaining
still is wonderful. We have talked about contact between the
man's pubis and the woman's clitoris and of the circular movements
made with the penis inside instead of the usual in and out
movements (the position of the cat). One
more thing can be said: when making love we focus too much
attention on the genital area. Try instead to copulate with
your whole body. Try making every part of you come into contact
with every part of your partner. Touch each other with your
feet, legs, chest, arms, hands and face. Accompany pelvic
movements with your whole body, rubbing against each other
smoothly and gently. In this way sex becomes an all-embracing
experience. Pleasure moves from the genital area to the rest
of the body. Movement and warm skin against warm skin increases
the number of sensations, becoming a box of orgasmic resonance.
Feeling energy being released in every cell.
If it is smaller than 3 centimetres when erect it is very
small. If it is longer than 24, it is very big. Around 10-20
is normal. In all three cases, you are able to give complete
pleasure to a woman, providing that you are sensitive and
know how to love.
There are millions of ways of making love. There are those
who love it regularly, those who love it gay, those who love
anal sex, wild sex, group sex, there are those who are fetishistic,
sado-maso, the show-off, the cerebral, the complicated...
There are those who collect lovers, those who collect underwear,
those who want to do it in all the Kamasutra positions, and
those who are only able to do it in the elevator... There
are those who simply want to try everything in life. I believe
that everyone is free to have fun as he or she wishes and
that being moralistic is stupid. I believe, however, that
to try everything is impossible. There's no time: you live
only once. You must however choose at least one route to explore.
I believe that in the end the simple things satisfy us the
most. Hugging, touching, kissing, rubbing, and fucking are
an immense territory to travel in and explore.
If you really go wild for perverse little games, enjoy them
without feeling guilty, just don't harm anyone. However, between
one perversion and another, treat yourself to a more homely
game: a shampoo, a little cat, a massage, and a footbath.
It's not "Basic Instinct" stuff, but I guarantee
you that when your feet are relaxed and happy, you feel great
(especially if you have worn shoes with 15 centimetre heels
and studded boots all day). Experience the greatness of the
primary sensations. Do only what you really like doing and
do it to the full.
That seen in movies and magazines is generally an exultation
of the ramrod. Technically, the sex practised in them is a
mad slamming of sexual organs. Stuff that just reduces you
to pulp. Pleasure is something else.
Type of malaise that affects those who have not fully enjoyed
making love. For many it's the rule and there are those who
still maintain even today that it is a physiological matter.
If a person is comfortable with sex, after an orgasm he/she
has a period of ecstatic abandon and physical, psychic and
emotional relaxation, followed by a state of gentle euphoria
during which you often have intuitions, ideas, imaginings
and flashes of inspiration. In the end, you fall asleep, you
sleep magnificently, or else for a while you enjoy a state
of psychophysical vitality and well-being.
Many are convinced that prostitutes are very good at making
love. Wrong. Prostitutes generally do everything badly and
in a hurry.
of the Cat
She underneath, he on top. His pubis is placed with all his
weight on her clitoris, (the man does not support himself
with his arms, he lies completely on her body). There is no
in and out, only rotating, horizontal, vertical or crosswise
movements. In this way, the penis "plunges" in the
vagina without ever coming out, not even by a millimetre.
Every now and then you stop and savour the simple contact.
Or you move by massaging each other, rubbing with your body
against your lover's body. Or only she moves, from underneath,
swinging herself like a ship as he lets himself be rocked
inert. Divine. Especially on a water bed because it accentuates
the slow swinging and favours co-penetration and body to body
Under the glans, in the lower part of the penis starting from
the fraenum is the spot utmost sensitivity in the penis. This
spot is so rarely taken into consideration that there isn't
a name for it in the English language. We have decided to
call it "Arthur".
Whoever commits an act of violence is incapable of feeling
sexual pleasure. It's a peculiar form of male frigidity that
leads to an aggressive neurosis that doesn't provide pleasure
but only paranoiac satisfaction. More than being criminals,
they are sick men who suffer in a disturbing way from emotional
impotence and mental and physical insensitivity. I'm against
violence, but I believe that if you catch them in the act,
it is impossible to resist the instinct to kill them instantly.
They commit an irreparable crime against life and love.
Anal penetration. Condemned by the church. Some people like
it enormously and in fact at times it is pleasurable. It is
also delightful at times to be touched in the surrounding
areas while you are doing other things.
Women love suspense, waiting. Wait, simmer them on a low fire,
stop, wander, wait for them to be the ones to implore you.
You need to be patience and to have nerves of steel. (Petrus
Boonekamp, for the man who never has to ask).
A person who has never had sexual intercourse that involves
penetration. Virgin girls have a membrane called the hymen
that tears the first time. Sometimes this involves a small
loss of blood. Long ago in some Italian regions, it was a
custom to expose the sheet stained with blood at the window
the first day after the wedding. This gesture meant that the
bride was a virgin and the man virile. It was certainly an
extremely idiotic custom, above all because:
1. Many women don't have the hymen or it's so fine that the
rupture doesn't involve a bleeding tear. Many others tear
the hymen involuntarily by touching or washing themselves.
2. If a man acts with a bit of care, and having lubricated
the opening with saliva or other, he can very well attain
a defloration without pain or bleeding. Finally, why do you
have to have yourself deflowered the first time? Why not prolong
this emotional experience? Do it a little at a time, to be
continued. Insert it a bit until the hymen stretches, and
then remain like this enjoying this beginning without inserting
it further. Do this a couple of times and arrive at complete
penetration only after a few days. There will be more suspense,
more waiting and more pleasure. From a technical point of
view, the ideal position to obtain a painless defloration
is with the girl lying on her back and a few pillows under
her buttocks. This way you can get the ideal angle between
the genitals. If instead the rupturing of the hymen during
sex scares you, you could very well do it by yourself with
Relax, abandoning yourself to sensations, to perceptions.
Listening in love the long cosmic symphony.